How To Overcome the Need to "Be Perfect"

Perfect is out, authentic is in. Learn how to get over the struggle to achieve a bogus ideal and learn to love your inner hot mess. I turned to my friend Leanne, a Registered Holistic Nutritionist and Yoga Instructor for some reflection on just WT actual F is up with this perfection ideal anyway. 

Here’s what she had to say.

In the last few years, I’ve noticed a large shift. More and more people are starting to get mindful about their health and well-being. Despite these great intentions, a lot of us are still (whether we realize it or not) striving for an impossible perfection. “This year I will achieve success in (body shape/size, career, finances, love).” Pick your poison. Whatever it may be, we want it to be perfect and successful.


Let’s get real. Think about someone who you consider to be successful. Are they perfect? It’s easy to get these two confused. Now, think deeper on that person. What stands out to you? It’s funny, the most successful people are often also the most quirky. It is confidence that has made them successful, not perfectionism.

Have you ever had a conversation with someone who is attempting to be perfect? I’m sure you have, but I am also sure you can’t remember much about it. perfectionism stems from insecurities through and through. I see this frequently and boldly on YouTube. The most successful are not the most knowledgeable necessarily. They, more likely, are the ones who are unapologetically themselves.

The general population does not want to learn from someone who is perfect. The majority of people will not seek advice from someone striving for perfectionism because perfectionism is not a relatable quality. It is utterly boring.

My main goal in my work is ultimately helping people get happy. Through holistic nutrition, Traditional Chinese medicine or yoga, it all boils down to the same goal: happiness. We live in an extreme time. We have a lot of influences, so we need to make sure we are following the right one. Goaling towards longevity and happiness, these are goals in which can create a fulfilling life – not perfectionism.

So take a moment here. Dig deep into your goals and make sure they are making you the happiest person you can be. Reevaluate what these goals mean to you and how they make you feel. Lastly, give yourself a break! We are all trying to figure out how to be the best version of ourselves, but don’t forget to stay balanced and leave room for some fun.

Once we believe this to be true, we can start loving our truths and our quirks. When we do that, our goals become more from a loving, nurturing intention. When our intentions are purely love, our life improves. Give yourself time to reflect on your resolutions. Do they come from a place of fear, or love? When we start loving our body, a pretty rad thing happens, it loves us back.

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How has perfectionism impacted you? What helps you embrace your inner hot mess? Sound off in the comments below!